Keep Your Worlds Separate
A very wise person once said this to me. He told me it was a quote and who said it. Unfortunately I've forgotten who and a google search has revealed nothing. This is one of the things I want to keep in mind as I start this blog. So I don't want to link it with my others. I'm not ashamed of being a Thelemite, I just like to choose who knows and who doesn't. As blogs and the like, gain in popularity, I can see a time when it's a normal part of an interview process to check out a person's blog. If and when that becomes common practice, I'd prefer it's not this blog they find. So for that reason, my first task is to try and strip out the generic info about me that gets put in the template. So here goes...
...Well that didn't seem like too much of a task, which probably means I missed something, but I can correct it as I go. It's Jo public I'm looking to keep this from, not someone who's determined to track me down, I think using this forum make that task pretty simple.
So where was I.... Keep you worlds separate... Yes, this was advice given to me, nearly 10 years ago, by the first thelemite I ever met and probably the most intelligent person I've ever known. Have you ever heard of people who's intellect is deemed "frightening"? Well his certainly was. In fact, when I knew him (I sadly lost contact some time ago), there where some, who were frightened of him, not that I think they had cause to be, or at least, you had to give him cause to be.
The advice is something I've tried to follow ever since, I've watched, with curiosity, the horrible fallout that has occurred, when others around me have failed to do this. I should like to note that I didn't withhold the same advice to others, simply to watch the result. Rather, I either gave the advice and it was ignored, or I didn't know the person well enough to offer advice.
Perhaps I should clarify exactly what I mean. Rather than worlds, think of circles. Circles of friends. You may have your work friends, with whom, you share talk on the news of the day, what music you're listening to, what sport and team you follow. Then you may have friends you grew up with, people who have witnessed you greatest and worst moments. People who have shared experiences with you, that are, either deeply personal, or maybe slightly un-ethical. Ethics are in the eye of the beholder and context goes a long way, in a lot of circumstances. At the end of the day, we all make mistakes and it's nice to be able to leave them behind, or at least not bring them into the office.
Or maybe you have a fetish and in the privacy of your bedroom, perhaps with a like minded partner, you indulge in shoe licking, or whatever takes your fancy. That's completely fine, but not something that you need to share with your children, should you have them, regardless of their age.
I think it's important not to confuse this, with being ashamed of anything you do. If asked, I will share an awful lot with those around me, if I trust their motive for asking and I believe they truly want an answer. I don't think any of the above should be viewed as a dirty little secret, that you have to keep hidden from the world. It's simply that you keep it in the world where it was meant to be.
...Well that didn't seem like too much of a task, which probably means I missed something, but I can correct it as I go. It's Jo public I'm looking to keep this from, not someone who's determined to track me down, I think using this forum make that task pretty simple.
So where was I.... Keep you worlds separate... Yes, this was advice given to me, nearly 10 years ago, by the first thelemite I ever met and probably the most intelligent person I've ever known. Have you ever heard of people who's intellect is deemed "frightening"? Well his certainly was. In fact, when I knew him (I sadly lost contact some time ago), there where some, who were frightened of him, not that I think they had cause to be, or at least, you had to give him cause to be.
The advice is something I've tried to follow ever since, I've watched, with curiosity, the horrible fallout that has occurred, when others around me have failed to do this. I should like to note that I didn't withhold the same advice to others, simply to watch the result. Rather, I either gave the advice and it was ignored, or I didn't know the person well enough to offer advice.
Perhaps I should clarify exactly what I mean. Rather than worlds, think of circles. Circles of friends. You may have your work friends, with whom, you share talk on the news of the day, what music you're listening to, what sport and team you follow. Then you may have friends you grew up with, people who have witnessed you greatest and worst moments. People who have shared experiences with you, that are, either deeply personal, or maybe slightly un-ethical. Ethics are in the eye of the beholder and context goes a long way, in a lot of circumstances. At the end of the day, we all make mistakes and it's nice to be able to leave them behind, or at least not bring them into the office.
Or maybe you have a fetish and in the privacy of your bedroom, perhaps with a like minded partner, you indulge in shoe licking, or whatever takes your fancy. That's completely fine, but not something that you need to share with your children, should you have them, regardless of their age.
I think it's important not to confuse this, with being ashamed of anything you do. If asked, I will share an awful lot with those around me, if I trust their motive for asking and I believe they truly want an answer. I don't think any of the above should be viewed as a dirty little secret, that you have to keep hidden from the world. It's simply that you keep it in the world where it was meant to be.
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